8 Things Pregnant Women Don’t Want To Hear
After a number of months of trying to get pregnant, I learned that the only person who hears more odd comments than someone who is trying to get pregnant is a pregnant person herself.
I spoke to a number of other friends who were either currently pregnant or who unprejudiced had a child after trying to conceive for an extended period of time. We discussed some of the most off putting comments, and what we as pregnant women could do without hearing. Though many women feel pregnancy is an experience that bonds women that are even strangers, there is a line should not be crossed.
1. If you have had a miscarriage and want to portion that information, that is shapely. But it is not principal to go into the intimate and sometimes gory details of your miscarriage. If your miscarriage is something you need to talk about in depth, inspect professional help of a grief counselor, church leader or trusted friend. A miscarriage is a pregnant woman’s worst nightmare. Hearing about it not only re-traumatizes the person who went though it, but it also traumatizes the person who was not expecting to have to hear all about it.
1. “Wow, you are huge!” This comment has been known to be followed up with, “Are you having twins? Because you look like you are!”
Women are already dealing with the vast amounts of changes that there body is going through, including the emotional changes. Yes, our bodies are changing. Yes, we have gained weight, and sometimes it’s a lot of weight. Do we need someone to point that out?
1. Please do not blame everything on our pregnancy. I have an acute sense of smell, even before I became pregnant, from ten plus years of making soap. I have a well trained nose. It’s not only because I’m pregnant. Blaming everything on hormones loses its laughable quality quickly.
1. Unless we are friends, and pretty good friends at that, I can do without having to hear about the details of how constipated you were during your pregnancy. Don’t fetch annoyed when I’m not willing to share this information with you. My bowel movements = my business. (The same goes for pregnancy hemorrhoids.)
1. Don’t forget that every pregnancy is different. What works for one mother to be may not work for another. Advice from another mother can be nice. But you can’t insist your way is the right way.
1. Following suit with number five is this: Doctors are as different as shoes. What is a great fit for me, may not work for you; it may not be your style. Don’t insist to me that my doctor is wrong and yours is right. Unless you feel that a doctor is making an egregious error, or you feel the doctor is really not making the mother-to-be feel pleasurable and listened to, then step in.
1. Avoid detailed conversations regarding morning sickness. There were many a time when I was feeling extremely sick, and making my way to the bathroom when someone would conclude me and ask me about my morning sickness. If I’m turning green, impartial move. Seriously, I don’t want to vomit on the floor in the office. It’s a crappy experience in general, by myself in the bathroom, let alone in public. I wish I had a dollar for every time someone went on and on about the morning sickness they had while pregnant. Guess what; talking about vomiting to someone who is fighting the urge to do so all day is not helpful. It’s a sure fire plot to examine my most recent meal all over your shoes.
1. The sex questions! Again, unless you are a very good friend, don’t ask me about how worthy sex I’m having while pregnant. The only exception to this rule is someone who has never been pregnant and wonders if it is physically possible with the baby belly. I’ve had numerous people ask me about sex, none of whom I am especially close to, with the exception of one person, who wasn’t curious about the details, just the logistics of how it works.
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